Thursday, June 4, 2009

please....


PLEASE, don't ask me if I'm over it yet.
I'll never be over it.
PLEASE, don't tell me she's in a better place.
She isn't here with me.
PLEASE, don't say at least she isn't suffering.
I haven't come to terms with why she had to suffer at all.
PLEASE, don't tell me you know how I feel,
Unless you have lost a child.
PLEASE, don't ask me if I feel better.
Bereavement isn't a condition that clears up.
PLEASE, don't tell me at least you had her for so many days, weeks, months.
What year, month or day would you choose for your child to die?
PLEASE, don't tell me God never gives us more than we can bear. I know this and believe this..its still hard.
PLEASE, just say you are sorry.
PLEASE, just say you remember my child, if you do.
PLEASE, just let me talk about my child.
PLEASE, mention my child's name.
PLEASE, just let me cry.

13 comments:

Christy said...

I am so sorry for your loss.....we are still praying for you and your family.....
Christy

http://safe-haven-blog.blogspot.com/

Heather said...

Jen I am so sorry for your families loss. Precious little Ella is an angel watching over you. Praying for you all.

Annie said...

Jen I am also very sorry for your loss. What a beautiful picture of your beautiful Ella. Always in our prayers!!!

Shelley said...

I have tears in my eyes. I can't begin to imagine what you're going through. There can't be any pain worse than losing a child. Hugs to you and your family. I am so sorry you have to go through this!

Stacy said...

I am sorry for your loss and praying for you and your family everyday. What a beautiful picture of your little girl Ella.

Ashlee G. Osborn said...

I am really sorry that you have had to deal with so many people saying inappropriate and dumb things.

Ella's so beautiful, just like her brother, Cayden. (I hope he doesn't mind being called beautiful, but he is)

Madison said...

Praying for you...

Anonymous said...

Hi Jen, I have been reading your site about Ella's journey since you were interviewed on Channel 6 News. I have been so touched by your story and your sweet baby Ella. I wanted to leave you with a blog address of a lady who has lost one of her triplet boys to cancer, I know it is not exactly the same but she is very inspiring and uplifting. She also had a Caringbridge site that she used as well. Look if you would like:

http://www.faithfulfroggers.blogspot.com/

and

http://www.caringbridge.org/fl/jacob/

You and your family are in my prayers... and I am VERY sorry for your loss.

Kelli

Angela said...

I am so very sorry.

dg darling said...

She is absolutely precious. Still praying for your family...

becc said...

Jen, you can cry on my shoulder anytime you want. I will never forget Ella. I know this has forever changed your familys life. Just know we love you and when you hurt I hurt too. Love you all, Becky

Megan said...

Agreed... people do always say the wrong thing. :o(

karin clarke said...

Hi there. Glad I found this. My 2 year old beautiful boy died almost 4 weeks ago.