Nothing can be done to be worth the loss for us.. no bright enlightenment's by a family member, no closer relationship to family, God, children for others will ever EVER be worth it.."Oh its fine she died, because so and so is back in church, or so and so comes around family, treats their children better" I actually hate it when people say good has come out of it..It runs through me like wild fire.. But the cold hard truth is while nothing is ever worth it, some things do lessen the blow some..WE are closer to Cayden, better parents, we've matured, prioritized because of our loss. We hold tight to our family more because of it..We probably would have never gotten around to foster/adopt because we would have had our hands full with our little sassy pants.. we would probably never have planned a fundraiser for awareness of anything...some positive things have came from our loss.. I think it seems like once this loss is endured, that you love more, your love expands..I think of my love for Cayden..its like a balloon that is completely expanded and about to bust..there is no more love that could possibly fit without it being too much.. down side is, this makes me INSANE when people are mean to him, blow him off, tell him to suck it up.. Seriously, did you just say this to my child who has been through more in the last year than you have in your entire miserable life?? ugh..so that is a down side to loving more..We've always been protective, but now its protective times ten.. rainbows and sunshine..its what he deserves.
We are so excited to be nearing the end of the process of foster and adoption..we are excited, nervous and anxious to see what and who comes into our lives because of this.. Cayden said he is nervous about another child being in the house, and he is "proud that we are helping other families when they need it the most." We have decided that in the room, I have a few small pics of Ella, and every time we have a girl stay in the room, we will take a pic and add it to her shelf..He tells everyone we talk to about fostering about this..:) he is so sweet.. We miss her so much, but we are really attempting to stay in the positive. To honor her short little life..one day at a time, one step at a time..
~~~oh here are a few pics from recently of our little big man..10 years old already.. *sigh*
This one cracks me up..Cayden always wants to take homer and bart simpson pics (even though he never watches the simpsons, he still thinks its hilarious.